And the wise 3yr old turned round to his Dad and said:
‘No, I am just Zac’
This got his father (who was a coach), thinking.
How many of us are simply ourselves?
How powerful would it be if all of us were simply ‘just Zac’?
Here endeth the lesson!
Tuesday 29 May 2007
Wednesday 23 May 2007
Someone else's shoes
In 'You Can Have What You Want' by Micheal Neill, there is a little experiment:
"I'd like you to put the book down and swap shoes with the person nearest you. Now, if you're in the bath, or reading this all alone in the middle of nowhere, I understand that might be alittle bit difficult. But, otherwise, go for it. Take off your shoes, go up to the person nearest you and ask them to swap.
Done?
OK, let's talk about it.
Nobody questions the fact that our feet are different from other people's feet. Different size, different shape, different appearance. There may be people you know with similar feet, but no one with identical ones to yours. And the reason you almost certainly didn't do what I just asked you to do (and if you did, for goodness sake swap back!) is because you understood immediately that it was ridiculous. The chances of someoneelse's shoes fitting your style and taste (or, more importantly,your feet) were as slim as a pair of single E loafers. Yet to them, their shoes might be the most wonderful shoes in the world- comfortable, practical, attractive, and with great memories attached as well.
What's less obvious to most of us is that the same principle holds true of our beliefs and practices in the world. Setting goals, meditating for thirty minutes twice a day, doing the latest diet, or practicing yoga might be as painful,uncomfortable and inappropriate for you as trying to squeeze into your favorite movie star's underwear - but you might still try to do it because it looks so good on them!
What if you don't need to do things someone else's way in order to live a happy, successful life? What if everything you've ever learned about success was just wrong?"
What if you had Your Natural Way, and that was your route to success?
Love
Donna.x
www.donnaonthebeach.co.uk
"I'd like you to put the book down and swap shoes with the person nearest you. Now, if you're in the bath, or reading this all alone in the middle of nowhere, I understand that might be alittle bit difficult. But, otherwise, go for it. Take off your shoes, go up to the person nearest you and ask them to swap.
Done?
OK, let's talk about it.
Nobody questions the fact that our feet are different from other people's feet. Different size, different shape, different appearance. There may be people you know with similar feet, but no one with identical ones to yours. And the reason you almost certainly didn't do what I just asked you to do (and if you did, for goodness sake swap back!) is because you understood immediately that it was ridiculous. The chances of someoneelse's shoes fitting your style and taste (or, more importantly,your feet) were as slim as a pair of single E loafers. Yet to them, their shoes might be the most wonderful shoes in the world- comfortable, practical, attractive, and with great memories attached as well.
What's less obvious to most of us is that the same principle holds true of our beliefs and practices in the world. Setting goals, meditating for thirty minutes twice a day, doing the latest diet, or practicing yoga might be as painful,uncomfortable and inappropriate for you as trying to squeeze into your favorite movie star's underwear - but you might still try to do it because it looks so good on them!
What if you don't need to do things someone else's way in order to live a happy, successful life? What if everything you've ever learned about success was just wrong?"
What if you had Your Natural Way, and that was your route to success?
Love
Donna.x
www.donnaonthebeach.co.uk
Tuesday 22 May 2007
Doing What Feels Right
I have a nice trap for myself - 'doing it right' versus 'doing what feels right'. Because I spent so many years believing the 'experts' - there is a 'right' way to do things, and they know what it is - I find myself falling back into that 'old' belief that they know best.
Something that I KNOW works is to do what feels right. Something that I know doesn't work is to 'do it right' according to someone else. No matter how expert someone is, no matter how much you respect them, no matter how experienced they are, no one knows you better than you do.
Remember to take what they know AND what you know about you and merge the two - then you get to learn from them, and still live life your own way.
Much love
Donna.x
Something that I KNOW works is to do what feels right. Something that I know doesn't work is to 'do it right' according to someone else. No matter how expert someone is, no matter how much you respect them, no matter how experienced they are, no one knows you better than you do.
Remember to take what they know AND what you know about you and merge the two - then you get to learn from them, and still live life your own way.
Much love
Donna.x
Wednesday 16 May 2007
To Thine own Self be True
I received an e-mail yesterday with this in it:
"As the Bard said, "to thine own self be true". So why do we waste valuable time wishing we were otherwise when we have everything we need? "
Excellent question! Anyone got an answer?
Love
Donna.x
"As the Bard said, "to thine own self be true". So why do we waste valuable time wishing we were otherwise when we have everything we need? "
Excellent question! Anyone got an answer?
Love
Donna.x
Tuesday 15 May 2007
What ‘The Secret’ Doesn’t Tell You; What do I really want?
What ‘The Secret’ Doesn’t Tell You; What do I really want?
1. What do I really want? One of the toughest questions on the planet. In order to implement the Secret I need to know what to ask for. There are two branches from this starting point. One is the personal, inside of myself, branch that responds to questions like, “what would you gladly pay 20% of your annual salary to have for yourself?” The other branch is the more traditional reflex to the question and moves the mind to ‘things’ like money, car, house, etc.
a. One way to approach this question is to start with a simple list of what I think I want. I, for instance, want my dream retirement house in a good weather location. In thinking about that I ‘want’ more money to enable me to pay for it. In thinking about that money part I ‘want’ more ways to earn and to do so fairly quickly. In thinking about that, I, in turn ‘want’ not just more clients but some new ways to generate revenue that don’t limit me so, for instance, don’t require me to be present (sell my book, internet selling, things that let me make money in my sleep (so called, passive income streams))
b. But back up here, what is driving the ‘want’ of that house? The question turns around into, “when I have that, what will it do for me?”. My answer is that it will allow me to live outdoors more than I do now, to have more time to enjoy my hobbies, to have more time with my children and grandchildren. Here I note that the driver of it all is in fact on branch one, and that there are branch two items to be attended to along the way to having all that I say that I want. This delightfully also opens up avenues to have at least some of those things on branch one, before I get the actual house.
c. The Secret tells us that the ultimate goal is the one to focus on. Let the Universe deal with the ‘how’ and just concentrate on the ‘what’. So my job becomes one of generating the advance memory of the experience of enjoying my perfect retirement home located in the perfect location. But wait, it’s not the home and location, it is what those do for me. So it is to live outdoors more than I do now, to have more time to enjoy my hobbies, to have more time with my children and grandchildren. Ah yes. By having peeled the onion back some and exploring both branches the ‘what do I really want’ question gets answered better and with both a feeling component and a doing component. The feeling I anticipate while I put my mind ‘in the perfect result’ is not the feeling of being in a certain house but rather of having those grandkids join me outside to share some of my hobbies. Both components are needed in order to manifest what I want. When I get myself well connected to the experiential feeling of the perfect result the gratitude I sense now is strongest. Gratitude is the fertile soil of the Law of Attraction. We are getting somewhere. JOne important noticing around all of this is that having set my intentions an amazing thing happened. My concern with the money has all but evaporated. We spoke with our financial advisor who explained how at this point in time sitting mortgage free in Nova Scotia is not as advantageous as sitting with a mortgage in southern BC. Well! That took us from 18 or 24 months to we can move right now. The Secret in action.
Joseph (part one of a six part series)
1. What do I really want? One of the toughest questions on the planet. In order to implement the Secret I need to know what to ask for. There are two branches from this starting point. One is the personal, inside of myself, branch that responds to questions like, “what would you gladly pay 20% of your annual salary to have for yourself?” The other branch is the more traditional reflex to the question and moves the mind to ‘things’ like money, car, house, etc.
a. One way to approach this question is to start with a simple list of what I think I want. I, for instance, want my dream retirement house in a good weather location. In thinking about that I ‘want’ more money to enable me to pay for it. In thinking about that money part I ‘want’ more ways to earn and to do so fairly quickly. In thinking about that, I, in turn ‘want’ not just more clients but some new ways to generate revenue that don’t limit me so, for instance, don’t require me to be present (sell my book, internet selling, things that let me make money in my sleep (so called, passive income streams))
b. But back up here, what is driving the ‘want’ of that house? The question turns around into, “when I have that, what will it do for me?”. My answer is that it will allow me to live outdoors more than I do now, to have more time to enjoy my hobbies, to have more time with my children and grandchildren. Here I note that the driver of it all is in fact on branch one, and that there are branch two items to be attended to along the way to having all that I say that I want. This delightfully also opens up avenues to have at least some of those things on branch one, before I get the actual house.
c. The Secret tells us that the ultimate goal is the one to focus on. Let the Universe deal with the ‘how’ and just concentrate on the ‘what’. So my job becomes one of generating the advance memory of the experience of enjoying my perfect retirement home located in the perfect location. But wait, it’s not the home and location, it is what those do for me. So it is to live outdoors more than I do now, to have more time to enjoy my hobbies, to have more time with my children and grandchildren. Ah yes. By having peeled the onion back some and exploring both branches the ‘what do I really want’ question gets answered better and with both a feeling component and a doing component. The feeling I anticipate while I put my mind ‘in the perfect result’ is not the feeling of being in a certain house but rather of having those grandkids join me outside to share some of my hobbies. Both components are needed in order to manifest what I want. When I get myself well connected to the experiential feeling of the perfect result the gratitude I sense now is strongest. Gratitude is the fertile soil of the Law of Attraction. We are getting somewhere. JOne important noticing around all of this is that having set my intentions an amazing thing happened. My concern with the money has all but evaporated. We spoke with our financial advisor who explained how at this point in time sitting mortgage free in Nova Scotia is not as advantageous as sitting with a mortgage in southern BC. Well! That took us from 18 or 24 months to we can move right now. The Secret in action.
Joseph (part one of a six part series)
my annual crocus poem (Module 5 in action for me)
Spring 2007
Blue sky, dull grass, new birds
They all come together my place
Big lungs, wide eyes, thought girds
Am looking all ways for that trace
Rake leaves, sweep walk, clear branch
Smelling the fresh that is Spring
Wond’ring, what might, be chance
Of finding that wonderful thing
Oh there, bright green, fine spot
Removing the old foliage cover
Old stuff, mat wet, Wint’ rot
Lifting the sheet like a lover
Tis it, not one, lots more
Bravely stand ready their gift
In clumps, mult’plied, ga-lore
That always oh heart mine uplift
Just flow’r, small one, no vase
Leave it in the ground there forever
Leave it, love it, good place
Enjoy it’s design oh so clever
The crocus
The crocus
Up out of the ground
The crocus
The crocus
None better is found
Joseph
Blue sky, dull grass, new birds
They all come together my place
Big lungs, wide eyes, thought girds
Am looking all ways for that trace
Rake leaves, sweep walk, clear branch
Smelling the fresh that is Spring
Wond’ring, what might, be chance
Of finding that wonderful thing
Oh there, bright green, fine spot
Removing the old foliage cover
Old stuff, mat wet, Wint’ rot
Lifting the sheet like a lover
Tis it, not one, lots more
Bravely stand ready their gift
In clumps, mult’plied, ga-lore
That always oh heart mine uplift
Just flow’r, small one, no vase
Leave it in the ground there forever
Leave it, love it, good place
Enjoy it’s design oh so clever
The crocus
The crocus
Up out of the ground
The crocus
The crocus
None better is found
Joseph
Monday 14 May 2007
Created by Merlin?
With all the effort that must have gone into creating someone as wonderful as you, it seems a terrible shame to be wasting even a part of the finished product. I imagine myself being created by a magician (like Merlin) who is dancing around a gold cauldron with silver steam, talking to himself “a pinch of passion, a dash of humour…oops my hand slipped, lots of humour! Okay, I’ll leave out any sensibility – there’s no room with all that fun. Now, a spoon of genius, a handful of enthusiasm…”
What ingredients went into the creation of you? What was the unique combination of characteristics that made you? Who created you – was it a mad magician, an all powerful God, an all seeing Universe? Picture how you were created – see how much love and joy went into that creation of you.
And just in case your Creator forgot to tell you…welcome to the world – we’ve been waiting for you. Your natural way? It’s what you were created for.
Love
Donna.x
What ingredients went into the creation of you? What was the unique combination of characteristics that made you? Who created you – was it a mad magician, an all powerful God, an all seeing Universe? Picture how you were created – see how much love and joy went into that creation of you.
And just in case your Creator forgot to tell you…welcome to the world – we’ve been waiting for you. Your natural way? It’s what you were created for.
Love
Donna.x
Friday 11 May 2007
How do You tell What is Working?
There are times when 'what is working' is not so obvious - in fact, sometimes it feels like nothing is working at all! However, there is always something that is working, and often it is the criteria that you use that are not working. For example, I have a horrible habit of making my 'it's working' criteria about more money. So, if I make 5p less one month, suddenly nothing is working? Not quite true...and a very narrow view of 'what is working'.
Finances are important to a business, of course they are. But they are not EVERYTHING.
There are also many others aspects of the business - for me, success is money + joy + service + growth + passion...plus quite a few other things now I think about it. So even if the money isn't working, what is working? I left money out of my answer today, and here's what's working when I forget about the cash:
- I am LOVING what I am doing
- Blogging and writing newsletters is fun and easy
- the help I get from other people with my business
- what I do is working really well for me and my clients
- I am meeting people
- I am deepening connections with people
- I am totally connected to service
- there are lots of potential opportunities in all directions
Okay, so I am not earning £64 million this month...but there's still a lot of stuff working!
What is working for you?
Love
Donna.x
www.donnaonthebeach.co.uk
Finances are important to a business, of course they are. But they are not EVERYTHING.
There are also many others aspects of the business - for me, success is money + joy + service + growth + passion...plus quite a few other things now I think about it. So even if the money isn't working, what is working? I left money out of my answer today, and here's what's working when I forget about the cash:
- I am LOVING what I am doing
- Blogging and writing newsletters is fun and easy
- the help I get from other people with my business
- what I do is working really well for me and my clients
- I am meeting people
- I am deepening connections with people
- I am totally connected to service
- there are lots of potential opportunities in all directions
Okay, so I am not earning £64 million this month...but there's still a lot of stuff working!
What is working for you?
Love
Donna.x
www.donnaonthebeach.co.uk
Wednesday 9 May 2007
Your Natural Way Nugget No 3
‘There is only one way, and it’s your natural way’
So, begin to notice where you give up your way for the way that works for others.
Find just one, and then morph it to a way that is more natural to you.
And bingo, your natural way is growing!
Easy!
Tip: Where you find life difficult, is often a place where you might be following other people’s ways, as opposed to your own.
Oh… congratulations on the continued discovery of your natural way!!!
Love
Your Natural Way
So, begin to notice where you give up your way for the way that works for others.
Find just one, and then morph it to a way that is more natural to you.
And bingo, your natural way is growing!
Easy!
Tip: Where you find life difficult, is often a place where you might be following other people’s ways, as opposed to your own.
Oh… congratulations on the continued discovery of your natural way!!!
Love
Your Natural Way
Thursday 3 May 2007
Last chance to take the teleclass for £75
Our next teleclass on 'Your Natural Way to Get Clients' begins next week.
Wednesday 5pm GMT - this is the 8 module teleclass delivered over 16 weeks.
And for the last time, this course is being offered at the BARGAIN price of £75. From June, the course fee will be going up to £95 per course (still a bargain!).
Why would you want to take this class?
You’ve got your training, you are ready to start…and waiting for that steady stream of clients to come knocking at your door…
There are so many great coaches out there with too few clients – are you one of them? All the coaching training in the world does not prepare you for the reality of ‘getting clients’. Here you are with all these skills…and now you also need marketing and sales skills too.
But which way should you jump? The more research you do, the more confusing this sales and marketing stuff looks – and some of it just looks so painful! Networking, elevator speeches, getting 20 ‘no’s… Somehow the things you’ve tried just don’t feel like ‘you’.
Don’t worry, you are not alone. And that is why we at Your Natural Way™ have developed a course that will help you to effectively use your business’s best asset – YOU! Led by world-class coaches, you will discover Your Natural Way to get clients™ in a fun, supportive, dynamic environment.
If you would like to sign up for this class, e-mail info@yournaturalway.com, and if you would like more information, go to http://www.yournaturalway.com/default.asp?mn=1.3.18
Hope to see you on the course next week!
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday 5pm GMT - this is the 8 module teleclass delivered over 16 weeks.
And for the last time, this course is being offered at the BARGAIN price of £75. From June, the course fee will be going up to £95 per course (still a bargain!).
Why would you want to take this class?
You’ve got your training, you are ready to start…and waiting for that steady stream of clients to come knocking at your door…
There are so many great coaches out there with too few clients – are you one of them? All the coaching training in the world does not prepare you for the reality of ‘getting clients’. Here you are with all these skills…and now you also need marketing and sales skills too.
But which way should you jump? The more research you do, the more confusing this sales and marketing stuff looks – and some of it just looks so painful! Networking, elevator speeches, getting 20 ‘no’s… Somehow the things you’ve tried just don’t feel like ‘you’.
Don’t worry, you are not alone. And that is why we at Your Natural Way™ have developed a course that will help you to effectively use your business’s best asset – YOU! Led by world-class coaches, you will discover Your Natural Way to get clients™ in a fun, supportive, dynamic environment.
If you would like to sign up for this class, e-mail info@yournaturalway.com, and if you would like more information, go to http://www.yournaturalway.com/default.asp?mn=1.3.18
Hope to see you on the course next week!
Love
Donna.x
Wednesday 2 May 2007
Sharing what is working
Here at your Natural Way we work to a simple principle:
‘Notice what’s working’ (and then repeat!!!!)
So from now on I would love the YNW blog to be a place where people come and share what is working
I find there are too many places already where people seem to come together and complain about what is not working in their lives.
Now obviously there are times in life when things don’t work, the skill that we have noticed is that even when they are not working there is always something to be learnt (you could say whats working!!!). So by all means feel free to share the things that have not worked, as long as you also share what you learnt as a result.
Its amazing the different energy that gets created when we simply put all our attention to what’s working…
Give it a go, and share what you learn!!!!
love
d
Damien Churton
‘Notice what’s working’ (and then repeat!!!!)
So from now on I would love the YNW blog to be a place where people come and share what is working
I find there are too many places already where people seem to come together and complain about what is not working in their lives.
Now obviously there are times in life when things don’t work, the skill that we have noticed is that even when they are not working there is always something to be learnt (you could say whats working!!!). So by all means feel free to share the things that have not worked, as long as you also share what you learnt as a result.
Its amazing the different energy that gets created when we simply put all our attention to what’s working…
Give it a go, and share what you learn!!!!
love
d
Damien Churton
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