What ‘The Secret’ Doesn’t Tell You; What do I really want?

What ‘The Secret’ Doesn’t Tell You; What do I really want?

1. What do I really want? One of the toughest questions on the planet. In order to implement the Secret I need to know what to ask for. There are two branches from this starting point. One is the personal, inside of myself, branch that responds to questions like, “what would you gladly pay 20% of your annual salary to have for yourself?” The other branch is the more traditional reflex to the question and moves the mind to ‘things’ like money, car, house, etc.
a. One way to approach this question is to start with a simple list of what I think I want. I, for instance, want my dream retirement house in a good weather location. In thinking about that I ‘want’ more money to enable me to pay for it. In thinking about that money part I ‘want’ more ways to earn and to do so fairly quickly. In thinking about that, I, in turn ‘want’ not just more clients but some new ways to generate revenue that don’t limit me so, for instance, don’t require me to be present (sell my book, internet selling, things that let me make money in my sleep (so called, passive income streams))
b. But back up here, what is driving the ‘want’ of that house? The question turns around into, “when I have that, what will it do for me?”. My answer is that it will allow me to live outdoors more than I do now, to have more time to enjoy my hobbies, to have more time with my children and grandchildren. Here I note that the driver of it all is in fact on branch one, and that there are branch two items to be attended to along the way to having all that I say that I want. This delightfully also opens up avenues to have at least some of those things on branch one, before I get the actual house.
c. The Secret tells us that the ultimate goal is the one to focus on. Let the Universe deal with the ‘how’ and just concentrate on the ‘what’. So my job becomes one of generating the advance memory of the experience of enjoying my perfect retirement home located in the perfect location. But wait, it’s not the home and location, it is what those do for me. So it is to live outdoors more than I do now, to have more time to enjoy my hobbies, to have more time with my children and grandchildren. Ah yes. By having peeled the onion back some and exploring both branches the ‘what do I really want’ question gets answered better and with both a feeling component and a doing component. The feeling I anticipate while I put my mind ‘in the perfect result’ is not the feeling of being in a certain house but rather of having those grandkids join me outside to share some of my hobbies. Both components are needed in order to manifest what I want. When I get myself well connected to the experiential feeling of the perfect result the gratitude I sense now is strongest. Gratitude is the fertile soil of the Law of Attraction. We are getting somewhere. JOne important noticing around all of this is that having set my intentions an amazing thing happened. My concern with the money has all but evaporated. We spoke with our financial advisor who explained how at this point in time sitting mortgage free in Nova Scotia is not as advantageous as sitting with a mortgage in southern BC. Well! That took us from 18 or 24 months to we can move right now. The Secret in action.

Joseph (part one of a six part series)